Monday, May 5, 2014

Hindering Helping Hands

Our culture tends to preach independence. (Doing your own thing, being your own person, taking care of yourself, etc.) Women especially are thrown an array of "suggestions" to take life my the reins and live their lives on their own dollar.

I'd like to make it clear that I have no disrespect for any person who can effectively take care of themselves. That notion in itself is not a bad thing. My concern stems from the fact that it seems independence is forced upon us to the point that having help from someone who (in my opinion) should help you is looked down upon. We complain when things are messy, we grumble about how we feel sorry for ourselves and we make lists of the overwhelming set of tasks we must accomplish as we smile and proudly deny any offer of help. The truth is we can likely accomplish what needs to be done on our own.. but I think we should all ask ourselves what we are missing out on when we don't allow others to help us. No one should have to be alone in their efforts and goals but how often have you backed yourself into that corner? What is so wrong with being taken care of by someone who loves you?

Being helpful and kind have never been things that are looked down upon. I feel certain that most people have someone in their lives who wants to take care of them to some degree and that is the kind of thing that should never be taken for granted. I fear that in being drastically independent we are inadvertently conditioning others to stop offering help. How many times would it take you to stop asking if you were always met with a bold refusal? I'd venture to say that the more we tell others their help is not necessarily the less likely they are to want to help. I believe people start to assume that you would rather do things on your own and that hinders them from an opportunity to help. How far fetched is it to say that by trying to take on everything alone you are teaching the world around that not kindly helping is perfectly acceptable? I think the two are very closely related

 The fact is that it goes both ways. I've yet to meet a single person in my life who does not have the need to be independent at times. It is also a true statement that I have yet to meet a person who has never needed help. To want both is human... to fight both is human.

Finding the balance... that's what is difficult.
It can start with something as simple as a smile. Don't let one end with you.
Open the door. Give up your seat. Help clean up. When you're able, go out of your way to do something nice for someone.. and not only that...

Allow nice things to be done for you!

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Sunday, May 4, 2014

35 Thoughts You Have While Watching Netflix

1. Come on, come on... load faster. 
2. Choose a profile... personalization is AWESOME!
3. How much time do I have? Movie or show? 
4. I've got a solid 2 hours.. I should watch a movie.. 
5. Crap.. Now I've gotta choose one. 
7. That looks funny.. but no. 
8. I should watch that.. but not right now. 
9. Wait.. lemme add that to My List.
10. I'm so excited to watch that at a later time. 
11. But what can I watch now? 
12. Seriously... How is anyone supposed to choose with this many choices? 
13. What are these catagories? 
14. Movies for ages 11-14...? That's awesome Netflix. I'm WAY older than that..
 15. Okay fine.. I see your point. 
16. Am I really still deciding? 
17. Maybe I should just watch a show. 
18. How much time do I have now? 
19. What's in my list?
20. Do I wanna just watch that movie now? 
21. No I don't have enough time... show it is. 
22. I love this show...
23. Play next episode. 
24. Play next episode. 
25. Play next episode. 
26. Wait.. what time is it? 
27. Just one more episode.
28. Wait... did I have plans today? 
29. I feel like I had something to do. 
30. This show is JUST SO GOOD!!!
 31. How many episodes have I watched?
32. I should get out of the house...
34. I literally missed my whole day...
35. Play next episode.

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Wednesday, March 12, 2014

The Legacy We Leave Behind Us

With a heavy heart I think back upon the life of a beautiful woman who left this world yesterday evening. Brenda was my boss at Star Academy for many years... but to call her "my boss" doesn't really do her justice. Brenda was one of the most loving and caring people that I have ever met and I considered her to be far more than just an employer. She was many things to many people but the role I most frequently saw her in was the role of a caregiver. When she got sick that was one of the many things that made seeing her that way so incredibly hard. Suddenly a woman who had cared so deeply for us and for the countless children who passed through her preschool was the one who needed the most care.
Since I have known her, Brenda has been the heart and soul of her business, the life inside a building that makes it much more then just a structure; the love and passion that turns the patrons and employees of a business into a close knit family. She has touched the lives of so many in her role as a director and has had an incredible influence on so many families. In my own life she has been at times a friend, a shoulder to cry on and in some instances, closer to me then parts of my family.

When I think about how Brenda would feel if she could see all of the people who are mourning her passing I tend to think most about all of the families from Star Academy that she has left behind. As a teacher at Star, these are the relationships I see most completely... the ones that make my heart ache the most. To those families and to the teachers who follow through with her dreams, I say this...

Don't dwell in the sadness of your loss, although it is great...
There are still children laughing in your presence..
Imaginary telephones ringing in the hands of small children..
A baby that needs to be rocked to sleep..
A wet glue, glitter scattering work of art that can so easily disappear in the mess of our lives...

The excitement of a simple mastered skill of a child that may go forgotten in the whirlwind of life's most devastating tragedies...

I am confident in saying that Brenda would have wanted us all to keep moving, keep living, keep learning and keep teaching. Continue to let her dreams live & grow. The smiles on those little faces will forever put a smile on hers.

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